This blog Gifts and Hurts was written by my colleague Douglas Kinney and is offered with the hope that you might come to recognize the gifts and hurts that you received from your parents. Soul Source is pleased to include it in Wonderings and Wanderings of the Soul and invites you to join Doug at Soul Source on May 8<sup>th</sup> & 9<sup>th</sup>.[separator style_type=”shadow” top_margin=”40″ bottom_margin=”40″ sep_color=”#9caebf” icon=”” width=”” class=”” id=””]
<a href=”http://thesoulsource.net/blog/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/valentine-heart-gift-box-md.png”><img class=”alignleft size-full wp-image-3075″ src=”http://thesoulsource.net/blog/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/valentine-heart-gift-box-md.png” alt=”valentine-heart-gift-box-md” width=”299″ height=”246″></a>I am totally fascinated by the concept of humans being physical expressions of their soul, and my main interest and research focus has been in identifying and understanding the many ways that this manifests in our world. One of my favorite examples of this is how it shows up in our relationship with our parents.
The basic premise for all of this is that each of us—as a soul before we incarnated—selected a life plan with particular objectives and supporting challenges. To help us work these objectives, we chose parents that would “help” us. As you might suspect, our parents are not going to make everything easy for us—that is not their job as supporting souls. Our life plan almost always contains challenges because it is in overcoming these that we develop the valuable character traits and strengths that are our soul’s goal.
Dr. Paul Brenner* has developed a remarkable approach for helping individuals see and understand the role of parents in our lives by how each of us received what he calls “gifts” and “hurts”. I had the pleasure of being a participant in one of Dr. Brenner’s workshops in the early 1990s and experienced first-hand the power of the method. It has influenced my work ever since.
Decoding the gifts and hurts each of us received from our parents provides important insight about our emotional and spiritual development while facilitating healing. To correctly interpret these gifts and hurts, we must learn to think, see and feel from our soul’s perspective. Only then can we understand the full significance of these gifts and hurts and see how we can use them for our spiritual development. **
As you might suspect, the gifts and hurts are a mixed bag with pitfalls (or downsides) in the gifts and hidden jewels in the hurts. Our parents “set-up” many of the key challenges we have planned for ourselves through the gifts and hurts they give and inflict upon us. Basically, they are “programming” our human beliefs about life, how we value ourselves, etc. such that we have to confront our challenges we have planned for ourselves.
In the life between lives regressions, workshops and counseling that I have done over the years, this programming becomes apparent. For those encumbered by parental hurts, the experience can free you to appreciate all the gifts of your childhood – something most will agree will set you on the road to freedom and wholeness. Time and again, those who come to understand the value of the gifts and hurts head into the future less burdened by the past, better equipped for more satisfying relationships and with a clearer sense of the intentions they set for this incarnation.
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. . . If you would like to gain a better understanding of the gifts and hurts that you received from your parents join us at Soul Source on Saturday, May 9, 2015 1:00 to 5:00 pm, for the What We Received From Our Parents Workshop led by guest blogger Douglas Kinney and/or join us on Friday evening, May 8, 2015 7:00 to 9:00 pm for a welcome reception to introduce Doug, his work and this topic to the Soul Source community.
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* Paul Brenner, MD, Ph.D. and Donna Martin, M.A. <em>Seeing Your Life Through New Eyes </em>
<em>** </em>This concept is further developed by Robert Swartz, Cht. in his two books<em> Your Soul’s Plan and Your Soul’s Gifts</em>
<strong>Presenter:</strong> Douglas Kinney is a New Thought/Science of Mind minister and practitioner, a certified spiritual hypnotist for past and between-lives regression. He is a spiritual journalist initiated by Neale Donald Walsh in journaling with the higher self. For more than two decades he has cultivated personal relationships with several authentic spiritual channels including the Lightspeakers. He has studied Spiral Dynamics (the evolution of societies) with Dr. Don Beck and the nature of the human personality with Mike Jay, a master personal coach. Doug’s early career as a system engineer/architect refined his capacity to discern patterns amidst complexity and create an integrated story for science, consciousness, and spirituality; evidenced in his book <strong><em>Frontiers of Knowledge: Scientific and Spiritual Sources for a New Area</em></strong> available through Amazon and his website <a href=”http://www.douglaskinney.com”>www.douglaskinney.com</a>.
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